How to Help Your Teenager Choose Friends
But three years later I left the club, and things changed. The friendships began to fade. The glue that held our relationships together—drama—was gone, and without it our “close” friendships fizzled out.
In contrast, there’s Hannah. We’ve only met each other in person once, and she lives on the opposite side of the country, but I consider her one of my best friends. Our grandparents went to church together and set us up as email “pen pals” more than seven years ago (when we were 12).
Hannah is a fellow Jesus follower and encourages me with every email she sends. I can go back to some of our earliest correspondences and read through all her emails to find her prayers for me, her transparency, her love for truth, and her gracious accountability. Our friendship only gets stronger as time goes by.
What Makes a Good Friend?
The wisest man ever to live, King Solomon, thought friendship was a huge deal—especially for young people. He recognized the people we spend our time with have a powerful, tangible influence on us. In Proverbs, he focuses his counsel on the importance of choosing right friends, urging his son to spend time with people who are:
- just and kind (Prov. 1:10–19)
- pursuing righteousness (Prov. 12:26)
- unconditionally loving (Prov. 17:17)
- teachable (Prov. 9:9)
- levelheaded and self-controlled (Prov. 22:24)
- honest (Prov. 25:18)
- trustworthy (Prov. 25:19)
- edifying (Prov. 27:17)
A tall order indeed, one no human being can perfectly fill. But some are pursuing those good things. Such people were around in ancient Israel, and they’re around today. Hannah is living proof
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